If you are like me, you are always looking for the best, you're always looking to be the best.
As a parent I am looking for the best parenting help I can find. But what is the best? I have struggled with this for years.
One day I came across D.W. Winicott's idea of "good-enough" parenting. He was talking with an anxious mom and he said to her, "You don't have to be the best mommy in the world. You don't even have to be a good mommy. You just have to be good enough"
What a relief!...
But what does this mean? While, I can't really say, it makes sense to me and I have a sense of what it means. Sit with this. Ponder it. Don't you, too, get a feel for what it is to do "good enough", to be "good enough"? If not, give it some time. It will come to you.
If you are like me, your need to be the best will wane. Your need to find the best parenting help will soften. Don't get me wrong, you'll probably still want to be the best and to find the best parenting help. It is just that you will no longer take that need so seriously. You will find that you move past that to a better idea - the idea of being and doing "good enough".
You may find that this is not the best parenting help you have ever read. You may think this is not even good parenting help. Hopefully you will find that it is good enough.
Happy parenting.
You don't have to be a parent alone, even if you are a single parent. Reach out. Contact me. Send me you comments and questions.
For more resources and information go to http://www.bestparenthelp.info/
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